Changing the Way You Communicate With Your "Self" and With Others 'Changes' You, Others, and the World.


Dean Gotcher

Changing the way you communicate with your "self" and with others, in the home, in the classroom, in the workplace, in government, in the "church," etc., from "right and wrong" (from the preaching of commands and rules to be obeyed, as given and the teaching of facts and truth to be accepted as is, by faith) to "How do you feel?" and "What do you think?" (to the dialoguing of opinions to a consensus—to a "feeling of oneness") changes you, your family, your neighbors, the nation, and even the "church." It is what the 'change' process (the dialectic process) is all about—restoring the common(ist) language spoken at the Tower of Babble ("How do you feel" and "What do you think"), negating the language which divides ("right and wrong")—although the spoken words may be different, the feelings and structure of thought (the desire for pleasure and approval, i.e., "peace and affirmation") are the same. Tell someone you like that what they are doing (or planning to do)—what their heart is set upon—is wrong and see where relationship goes from there.

We have become so relationship, i.e., "feelings" conscious that that we no longer tell someone what they are doing is "wrong," i.e., warn them about the consequences of their actions (not only regarding their present life but where they will spend eternity) out of fear that telling them the truth will get in the way, i.e., interfere with the relationship. When you do this with your children they no longer are your children (knowing right from wrong), but are children "of and for their 'self'" and the world,.living for the pleasures of the 'moment' only.

© Institution for Authority Research, Dean Gotcher 2016